When should you stop trying?

Read this article first. https://www.inc.com/minda-zetlin/10-signs-its-time-to-stop-trying-so-hard.html Answer these questions.

1. Is the application only for romantic relationships? What other relationships could it be applied to?

2. How successful are you at focusing on the positives instead of just the negatives?

3. Do you put the weight of your positive perspective on your kids? If yes, how has that affected your relationship with your children?

4. Are you willing to reform and get help?

Trading in the Faulty for the Healthier Script of Glasses

I found this article by googling the question "When should I stop trying?". The first line I totally didn't relate with since Id never seen the site before; but the words "entrepreneur" and "overacheiver" jumped out at me. I gave up being a business overacheiver with my last relationship, but I did not learn FROM the last relationship in a positive way. I was so hyperfocused on what I had done wrong that it made me paranoid at times. Thank goodness for having a wonderful, understanding, and intelligent husband with the intuition of a Jedi. But the author goes on to address how overachieving can leech into other relationships- especially as a parent.

We as parents should want the best for our kids and want them to be happy, right? But as a person we can use crutches such as relationships, school, drugs, and even fun activities as a crutch. Even the best things can be overindulged in- even guilt. Even entertaining! Being in a life run my overachieving performance can tip that scale too far and make it hard to balance.

With this in mind, how does this apply to the opposite spectrum? What does caring too little do? Do you have a relationship (if you are young it might be a parent) where you value the person but they hurt you and make you angry so much that you go overboard to negate their input? Have you replaced parental authority with peer input or found a surrogate to replace the needed parental input? It's easy in this day and age to replace the people that God put in our lives. Entertainment, luxuries, technology, work, drugs, sleep, sports, health consciousness- all can be used to dull feelings.

What if your relationships are good and you aren't doing drugs but you still feel empty and dissatisfied? What are you missing? Sometimes that is when you add something different and drop/cut back activities that have stopped making you happy (no, you can't quit working and become the member of a commune).

If you are ready to open up your view of your life beyond where you are now, try googling "How to enrich your life." You'll find some opinions telling you to give up something and other opinions saying to add something. Do both. Wherever you give up something, add in something better. Stick with it for a bit until you draw what you can from it. You will ALWAYS get something positive from even the worst experience. Just don't do anything illegal in the US. Ok?