In Perspective

Here is a moment where I can be candid. It is good to show humanity at times and not just advise. It is my hope, however, that in processing my own thoughts I might encourage someone to make a step toward a better homeostatis.

Anger. It tears. It hurts. It digs in and causes a rumble in your mind that travels to the utmost reaches of YOU. And it is a secondary emotion.

Full disclosure: I've spent a ton of my life ticked off. I was angry with my parents for prioritizing religion and politics before emotional wellbeing for my sisters and I. I was angry with my first two husbands for their lack of attention and various other issues (I'll generalize since they are still local and I don't want more problems).

I was angry about my former business partner for how he handled the company I had started. - All of these have been mentioned at one point or another, right? So obviously old HABITS die hard. Anger is like a relationship- you get over it when you stop letting yourself think about it and put a name to what you are feeling. Say "I am in pain and I will let it go."

But what if the anger is a secondary emotion from fear? "What am I afraid of?" Those are hard words to answer without tapping into a psychology background. First you have to SEE that you are/were afraid and then you have to WANT to FIX IT.

If you don't want to fix it then I gotta ask. Does it make you feel more powerful? Is it a strength to push someone down when you could soar above them instead? Love conquers all.