Crystal Therapy for Grieving

Death is part of life. Be it the death of a person; of a relationship; or the loss of something that you hold dear, there is a grieving process that you will invariably go through. We've heard of the stages of grief:

I adapted this table of the Kübler-Ross Model from TheLossFoundation.org since it was so applicable. We don't all grieve at the same rate, and sometimes one might skip a step or two and vascilate between stages before resolving (temporarily or otherwise). At some point you might feel like you are drowning. That is where I found myself this afternoon.

After getting scary news about a very important woman in my life last night, I found myself in an emotional panic with thoughts ranging from "I've got to see her before it's too late," to "Why the hell am I the only one who feels the need to rush to see her?". Perhaps I am a little hyper-sensitive after already losing numerous people fundamental to my childhood including both of my parents. My usual support system is not ready to grieve with me yet, but she is "Mom" to me, and I value the time with her. Regardless of WHY, I went from trying to help a client deal with her stress and panic for 90 minutes, to breaking down in tears on the floor of my office and feeling utterly alone. It was crushing. I had no sooner reached out to my crystals and chosen a few before two very dear friends texted me out of nowhere and reached out. God and the universe picked the moment that I was open to dealing with shit to bring unquestionable support. Thank you to those two friends, and to the universe. The problem doesn't just go away, but in the span of half an hour I no longer drowned and I understood how to help others with their grieving when they get to the point where they are raw and open.

Crystals carry electromagnetic frequencies built into them (piezoelectricity and pyroelectricity)https://www.britannica.com/science/crystal/Electric-properties. I include a reputable source with the scientific jargon for those skeptics or curious minds who might never have recognized that ALL matter has energy- be it sound, color, smell, or simply atomic. This is how color, aromatherapy, music, and crystal therapy works. When you combine the four like I do in my work, mountains can be moved. Some aspects of EMF work without conscious effort on the beneficiary's part, while other aspects require the beneficiary to be in a receptive state. For example, cinnamon essential oil lowers blood pressure regardless of who you are, while the color red (often associated with cinnamon) can be a stimulant. At 220-500 Hz it is considered "grounding". Once one understands the baseline for corelating matter and energy with the affect on the human body, one can usually open themselves to intention (using them for healing). While no two people have the exact same brain and heart pulse, one can say that crystals will still have the same affect across the board.

Take yourself to a quiet and safe place where you can be comfortable. I'd recommend the floor, to be honest- the closer to literally being GROUNDED the better. Surround yourself left to right with these crystals so they tune with you and you can easily reach for them and hold them when you program them and tune them to you. If they are new to you or need to be cleansed and recharged, it is best to use the sun for a few minutes or a container of brown rice overnight. If needed, bury your crystals for a week. Some crystals can be cleansed in cool running water, but not all. When you use them be patient and open with them in your hands. Let the frequency guide you in when the right time is to hold on or move to the next one. You will know. Remember, this is for when you are OPEN and READY to deal with it all. Having a friend with you may be an option, especially if they are not a distraction or blocker and can help you with intention.

1. Rose Quartz:

   Begin with letting yourself grieve. The purity of rose quartz and it's gentle love help to ground you as you chose to navigate your grief. You are safe to open up to emotion. Cry if you need to. Why hold it back?

2. Sardonyx (red, pink, and black onyx):

   After having a purge of your tears and letting your heart perspire, sardonyx pulls you into a fireball and flings you into a determination state. Usually one doesn't get the "mean reds" so to speak, but instead gets that cinnamon-red affect. You can let go of the depression and feel hope. You have found comfort and can now purpose to deal with the future with less fear. While you might see this as the ultimate goal, it is not. Keep going.

3. Black Tourmaline:

I call this the "fuck the world" crystal because it helps protect and shield emotions. After getting yourself into a good head space, you want to keep it. You might be around others, though, who have not arrived where you are. You will need to keep yourself protected with black tourmaline frequency (2-50 MHz). A similar crystal is shungite which absorbs microwaves and radio waves.

Moonstone:

Use this last. After you have cried; emotionally sweat it out; and put up your stronghold; you still need love and peace. For me, black and white variegated moonstone works best because white moonstone seems to overshoot my crown chakra a bit. As a similar frequency to Rose Quartz (200 Hz) it is a beautiful resolve to reinstate love for others and inner balance. Being ready to love is a necessity, and it can help you accept that others are grieving around you without your having to crash with it.

Repeat as needed and always remember that it is OK to grieve. It is okay to have days where others need to lift you up. It is a process, not somewhere to stay. You will find your strength when you need it.